Saturday, October 8, 2016

We talk a lot about sexual rape. But, what does that actually mean?

rape: transitive verb


1 archaic : to seize and take away by force : despoil
2: to commit rape on

We often discuss institutional bias while discussing minority issues but, we rarely discuss institutional bias that goes in favor of the minority groups. Typically while discussing rape we use forced penetration as the assumption of rape. So, while this is true in many instances what about male victims that aren't penetrated? Does forcing them to penetrate someone count as being raped? Instances of hazing in colleges where men are coerced into penetrating another boy, instances of domestic violence where the bottom (one that prefers being penetrated) is the one that is aggressively demanding sex by forcing the top (one that penetrates) to penetrate them. When we assume to seize and to take something is from a cisgender, patriarchal, heterosexist opinion of forced penetration we leave out many possible situations that while discussing rape in this manner we reinforce the paradigm that men cannot be raped unless they are forcefully penetrated. The adverse being that the bottom partner doesn't penetrate and therefore cannot rape someone. 

Part of this reporting problem is how rape and sexual violence are defined - up until 2012 the FBI's definition of rape was "the carnal knowledge of a female forcibly and against her will". Legally, men could not be victims of rape(according to the FBI). They've since updated their definition to focus on "penetration" with no mention of gender - but no FBI statistics have been gathered using that definition as of yet. What is interesting about the CDC study is that it created a new classification of sexual assault they referred to as "being made to penetrate". This includes victims who were forced to penetrate someone else with their own body parts by force or when they were otherwise unable to consent. When those cases were taken into account - the rates of nonconsensual sex nearly equalized between men (1.267 million victims) and women (1.270 million victims) in the 12 months prior to the study period.

“The most traumatic part was the complete assumption of consent,” he tells me nearly two decades later. “I was physically revolted by the experience. It just felt so shockingly wrong.” 
We coin consent into a context of willing participation while assuming that because a male can become erect and ejaculate it is always consensual. An erection is a passive reaction. When female teachers rape male students the discussion often goes away from rape and into "he is one lucky kid, I would have tapped that." Or even in the instance of Shia LaBeouf's rape statements and the outright discussion of how he wasn't raped. We have this internalized assumption that an erection is an action that informs consent. Simply because a person is erect and even has an orgasm they have consented to sex. But, one of the curious things many don't discuss is the fact that some individuals can have an orgasm without their penis being touched. A transgender female can still ejaculate while being penetrated from the stimulation in her prostrate. As well as a cisgender man can because orgasm is a secondary part of sexual activity. I have no understanding of a cisgender female's body or reactions, however I would assume they are capable of having an orgasm during rape without consenting to the rape.

This institutionalized bias going so far as to have the FBI definition of rape clearly stating ONLY a [cisgender] female can be raped is a pervasive assumption in not only rape discussions, but in the discussion of human trafficking. Because, the basic assumption that rape is forced penetration of a female negates anyone that isn't a female from the dialog of legitimate victimhood and a need of services. When you included forced to penetrate and the instances of sexual assault are nearly the same it makes a curious argument of basic assumptions we hold as a society in favor of a minority class over the majority class and simply negate the majority class (in this instance an assumption that females are always victims and men are always the perpetrator) while holding firm to statistical information that has a clear bias towards that assumption. So, the remaining questions are: 1. Does an erection qualify as consent? 2. Is forced to penetrate rape? 3. Is someone that isn't a cisgender female a victim? 4. How do we get past the continued discussion of being force penetrated is the only rape? 

Monday, September 19, 2016

Some people I know tend to have elaborate discussions on what they would do if they ever won large sums of money or how they should be granted large sums of money for a day to do with as they would. Those discussions pivot around selfish and elaborate wants and things. Things that they don't need in reality. They have a house, they have a one year old car, they have decent income...but, it is never enough. When I ponder large sums of money I plan trust funds for charities that run on shoe string budgets I know, I plan on fixing a house into a shelter, I plan on putting into practice the program I have spent years developing...and I am told by others I work with I HAVE to put in a salary for myself. I struggle the salary part...because, if I live in a house that is a shelter, utilities are paid, food in maintained, and the structure is kept up what needs to I have beyond food, shelter and so on?

I think this difference is the problem with society as a whole. We worry only about ourselves and don't offer help for others. We condemn a 15$ minimum wage because those on minimum wage aren't worth a living wage. We complain we don't make enough, don't have the newest, don't have the best, and struggle...while callously condemning those we see below us. Instead of accepting that we are all struggling in our current economy we pick those we see as 'worthy' of suffering. We have people hoarding money and things while people keep losing homes because they can't afford to live in one.

This creates a population of individuals that have unstable housing, unstable eating, and many insecurities on needs. That opens the door to exploitation starting at survival. I find it curious that human rights groups find the solution to this exploitation being legalizing the buying of individuals that work in survival sex industry. Rather than working to fight for a living wage, more accessible education, housing, and access to better jobs with stable hours and income...they fight for the right to buy individuals struggling to survive. A society that fights for the rights of those with the ability to buy people...while not fighting for those so desperate to survive they sell themselves is a curious thing.  What does it say of the ethics behind the rationalization that rather than a living wage it is better to allow those with money to purchase another? How does that fit into a human rights discussion?

It is a curious world where we are so intent on our own worries that we rationalize the 'best' way to help others is to allow exploitation and 'survival' while that survival is things no one dreams of doing. The world is so separated between individuals of privileged life and those unfortunate souls that simply have to get by with survival. When you sleep rough on the streets, haven't ate in a few days, and need to sell yourself to sustain the roughest form of life...while people in offices from middle class families formally educated and well housed justify that existence...it shows how society holds a separate status for the less privileged.

  Poignant Video on survival. This is the type of 'survival' that people are trying to justify as acceptable rather than trying to address the root causes. One of the statements "I never accept money, only food or shelter. Because, that would allow people to call me a prostitute." We create a populace of people that have to be prostitutes to survive and blindly turn an eye on the society that allows so many to be so impoverished that they have to survive in such a manner.


Saturday, September 3, 2016

We discuss intersectionality a lot and the need for a diverse coalition or network of individuals to work with the needs of potential victims of trafficking. But, have we actually taken the time to comprehend what those intersections look like? Oftentimes we hear sex trafficked women and their male pimps. As the only focus of the anti-trafficking movements. The intersection of potential victims doesn't just stop at domestic girls that are trafficked for sex. Currently we have refugees that have organs harvested by traffickers. We have foreign labor victims trafficked into the US for massage parlours, restaurant work, lawn care, or even tree services. We have female sex tourism where women travel for sex with African men. We have female paedophile rings that use their own kids for sexual gratification. And, we have LGBTQ individuals that are impoverished, homeless, young, and working survival sex, stealing, and doing anything they can for a few dollars.

PRISM's main focus is on LGBTQ individuals. So, with using my personal knowledge I tend to focus more heavily on the intersections of LGBTQ exploitation and trafficking. But, the stigma faced by LGBTQ individuals has a lot of cross stigma that makes the trafficking situation more complex. LGBTQ individuals aren't isolated to one skin tone, one nationality, one gender...we are of all walks of life. The racial stigma is a factor, the impoverished stigma is a factor, still struggling the sexually transmitted diseases stigma, the drug addict stigma, the stigma of being arrested, the stigma of selling drugs or sex.

All of these stigmas accumulate to a privileged discussion of 'legitimate' victims. Personal bias on the intersections of oppression shouldn't be weighted against a potential victim one is interacting with. Simply because you have no working knowledge of a black trans woman that is addicted to heroin with AIDS doesn't mean she is any less worthy of services for her abuse. If this woman was a 16 year old white girl from middle class America and was given the heroin by a trafficker and got AIDS from a buyer would the issue even be raised of her worthiness as a victim? Yet, we have organizations that try to 'cure' the trans woman of the sin of being who she is, write her off as choosing to do this, and condemn her for having been arrested. She is seen as a less than legitimate victim and simply wrote off and thrown back to the streets.

This savior complex within the anti-trafficking movement is quite baffling. We see so many organizations popping up in churches across the US that see themselves as white knights rescuing people. That is a fallacy. Quite frankly, it is a dream and an illusion of idealism. Victims are human! They can't be rescued...they have to be helped. As with domestic violence sometimes it takes 7 interactions with an organization before someone can help themselves. There is no magick pill, no midnight rescue, no miracle fix to the issue.  It takes a survivor being helped by a community to get back on their own feet.


Saturday, August 20, 2016

There is more awareness of Human Trafficking in the US today than perhaps at any other time.  Albeit the conversations are starting within communities, there is a lack of discussion within the LGBTQ community of ways to keep LGBTQ kids safe.  While talking with organizations that deal with homeless kids they say they use 'local resources'. BUT, the irony is there are no local resources for LGBTQ kids. When I try to find services for the individuals I work with...they are too old for the few places that deal with victims. In that very few places actually deal with men, fewer deal with adults, and most are 17 to 24 because of the FYSB laws and regulations.

But, lets take it one step farther. Just because local churches do take in LGBTQ kids...doesn't mean they are the most beneficial program for the trafficked victim. Many religious groups have contracts to sign for care requiring adherence to their faith based programs, some still promote the cure the gay therapy, and many are simply triggering because many of the homeless LGBTQ kids were kicked out or sexually assaulted by members of religious communities.

Lets take it one step further yet.  The LGBTQ community has been very silent on trafficking. Not only silent...but, not the easiest to speak with in regards to even bringing the subject up. Much like the early days of the AIDS movement...simply not speaking about it, means it will simply go away and not be a problem. While more and more locations are getting more and more trafficked LGBTQ kids into their programs.

So, we have a populace that is suffering homelessness, food insecurities, have physical needs...that are prime targets for exploitation. With new technology there is a populace of teens looking for LGBTQ community being exploited online. With lack of discussion...lack of awareness...lack of outreach there is simply not much in the lines of services for these kids. Instead, there is a lot of exploitation, sexual coercion, and trafficking. There is a fine line between sexual freedom...and freedom to sexually abuse individuals.

Not all trafficking is sexual. There is organ trafficking (which is mostly being seen with refugee populations at the moment to pay for the smuggling out of places like Syria), there is forced labor with trafficking of weapons and drugs, forced labor for child care, cleaning, nail salons, massage parlors, and even forced labor in restaurants. The populace I deal with has been used for forced labor in sex clubs and gay bars that we all frequent. Not paying a CHILD (some as young as 13) for working as a stripper, go go dancer, shot boy, bartender, escort while working in these locations is not only exploitative BUT trafficking. When you demand that someone sell their body or their labor to compensate their 'privilege' of a place to stay or for food...that is at minimal exploitation if not trafficked.

With kids under the age of consent it is ALWAYS trafficking when they are sexually exploited for the privilege of food or shelter. Under the age of consent means they cannot actually consent to the sexual exploitation. However, these individuals that feel they are entitled to ask for sexual favors in return for 'generosity' aren't really that generous. They are nothing but a welcome wagon and expect the sexual favors as compensation for their efforts.

Education needs to address the complex interaction of coercion, force, fraud, consent, and the vast differences between survival and exploitation or trafficking. Albeit, this intersections overlap in places they are not always the same. But, to deny that survival sex is never exploitative, never trafficking, and never outright abuse is ludicrous. Reading on how the prostitutes in the gay community don't suffer any of the abuses of the straight women on the streets is laughable. The only reason those abuses don't happen is because they aren't reported, aren't tracked, and society in general wishes to simply forget LGBTQ kids are even part of a larger problem.

Being written off by families, being thrown out by society, living rough on the streets, and being taught that survival sex and exploitation is the only means of survival of YOUR choices...means that the abuse is simply a consequence of that choice and therefore not actually abuse. There is a complex and intricate oppressed mindset within the LGBTQ community...because...that is all we actually know. Not teaching those differences, not having comprehensive sex education for our populace, not having access to informed consent, not having adults willing to discuss the problems we face, not having open and honest discussions on how to address the victims is WHY it happens. This isn't about legal sex work or criminalized sex work. This is about non consensual, exploitative, abusive, coerced, forced, or fraudulent sex work that is expected as compensation for 'nice' behavior.

We have a rape issue in the US, we have a bigotry issue in the US, we have a structure of classes of privilege, we have a built in institutional bias, we have a domestic abuse issue, we have a violence issue...and we have an ego problem where we don't talk about most of these things and IN FACT we shame people for being victims of these things. We don't like weakness, we don't like admitting faults, and we don't like addressing or discussing anything that points light onto those problems. We have a system of governance that is more concerned with political infighting with us and them (republican party and democratic party) that while fighting over partisan politics ignores the greater problems of the US. We have a fascist wing that sells propaganda that the left is the fascist wing...while ignoring the fact that the left is only left of fascism and very conservative on everything BUT a few social causes. However, the left is also willing to barter and trade on those social causes to get things done.

Even the party platform now...beyond the fear driven politics of vote blue or we become fascist...is the 'most' progressive platform in a generation. But, it is heavy on military action, has willingness to continue fracking, has willingness to consider bartering on abortion (as long as it has allowances for women's health...and is being championed by a moderate that is in favor of the Hyde Amendment *Kaine). Congress is HALF made of millionaires, the POTUS hasn't been below millionaire status for decades, monopolies of businesses buying all their competition allow for exploitative services, exploitative housing, exploitative finances, and all these partisan politics (with liberals promoting the payday lending schemes) allow for the exploitation to even occur. WHILE the proclaim they are in it to end it...dancing around oblivious to how their own policy wars are the root causes of the problem. Survival sex wouldn't be a mandatory part of survival if policies for living weren't so contested. Millionaires fighting over raising the minimum wage to a living wage...because they need to have more tax cuts on the interest of their millions in the banks.

Outside of survivors discussing many similarities of crushing poverty, abuse, and the way we fall into the traps of exploitation and trafficking there is little discussion on the root causes, no jobs, no education, and crushing poverty with exploitative market bubbles and corrupt lending established specifically to continue this cycle of indebtedness. Until there is meaningful discussion on the cataclysmic divide of wealth and poverty, until businesses are reigned back in with anti monopoly laws, until banks are separated from large institutions with little regulations, until a wall is placed between Wall Street and Banks, until religion is removed from politics...exploitation will continue to happen regardless of the best interests of a bunch of millionaires discussing the problem...perplexed that it can even happen.

Wednesday, July 27, 2016

There needs to be more interaction within groups of anti trafficking and other populations for continued advancement on services and needs of victims and survivors. While discussing with service providers on ways to improve outreach options and interactions with the LGBTQ community there are a lot of roadblocks to interaction. Some LGBTQ organizations don't bother to return contracts for collaboration, others push off stories of reaching out for 'local groups', and some are actually trying to figure out ways to help their clients with interactions from anti-trafficking groups.

A lot of anti trafficking groups are faith based programs...which can be a trigger for LGBTQ individuals...as well as the complex 'sin' relationship and promotion of ideas that are definitely against the LGBTQ community. As a trans survivor I am definitely LESS than impressed with the blow offs, contempt, and outright denial of even having a conversation on LGBTQ inclusive and beneficial policy. But, the adverse is also a complex frustration...many of the LGBTQ organizations I have supported for decades simply don't want to have a conversation on trafficking.

I try to preface with my reach outs that I have no desire to discuss legal sex work/anti sex work debates. My opinions are not legally informed and my intentions are simply to deal with the needs of survivors/victims.  I don't want to waste time discussing the intense debates of pro/anti sex work. I feel there is a critical need for services and I would just as soon not argue a never ending debate on what is and is not best for sex workers. Quite frankly, I am more concerned with the trafficked/exploited individuals and getting them out of dangerous situations and into better lives.

It is disheartening that individuals won't even entertain a conversation about collaboration on services and needs of a specific populace of victims/survivors. I don't see how there is so much contempt over the pro/anti something that we can't even discuss those caught in the middle.  I would love to see a national LGBTQ anti-trafficking task force that helps bridge the gap of LGBTQ needs in shelters and services. Just because someone is working for anti trafficking movement doesn't mean they are automatically anti sex work. And adversely just because someone is pro LGBTQ doesn't mean they are pro sexual exploitation.

There needs to be the common ground support efforts to help the victims/survivors caught in the middle of the argument. There are a few organizations out there that are really trying to help and reaching out with specific needs, questions, and wish for collaboration to work with LGBTQ victims/survivors...it seems like rather than letting others continue to do trial and error method of help with several hits and misses along the way...we should be willing to work on collaboration.


Wednesday, June 15, 2016

“Are we to declare these unfortunates who through no fault of their own have been born with instincts and desires different from ours..are we...going to force them into secrecy and shame for being what they cannot help being, by branding them as criminals?” Mae West: The Drag 1927

The muddled history of LGBTQ rights is something that takes years of study to comprehend.  But, to be brief on some of those issues for context the first laws against sodomy (only laws condemning men and not women) were in 190ce. Those puritanical laws came to the American continent from the start with similar laws against sodomy in all the states by 1692.  Thomas Jefferson wrote an attempted law in 1776 that made sodomy punishable by death, later approved with castration as the punishment.  In the 20s during prohibition it was a felony to be a homosexual in the US.  There were laws against meeting in public, against serving alcohol to a homosexual, and the VICE society held raids of gay bars and parks.  

Mae West was controversial in her stance to write plays that brought this into the light of public awareness.  Several arrests and bailing out her entire cast for her off broadway shows in New York City and New Jersey helped to create the startings of a vibrant underground society.  The only bars during the prohibition era that dared to go against the VICE society were mafia controlled establishments...where customers had to pay for their “protection” and officers were bribed to walk away. Still the raids continued.  The first striking out in the LGBTQ community was in the summer of 1966 in the Tenderloin district outside of Compton’s Cafe...a transgender woman was denied service and the first rousing of protests occurred.  That spark of protest went across the entire country.  On June 28th 1969, 3 officers entered the Stonewall Inn in New York City for a raid and in the heat of a humid New York Summer the most discussed LGBTQ riot broke out.

Two weeks before Stonewall a Columbian Exchange Student was arrested at the Snake Pit and feared deportation so he jumped from the precinct window impaling himself on a fence.During the three nights of riots after Stonewall scare queens (term of the time) dressed in curtains from cheap hotels danced the streets in chorus lines taunting the law, lesbians threw bricks at the officers, and the Stonewall was started on fire with officers still inside.  The fear of felony conviction charges and continued arrest and exploitation at the hands of both bar owners and officers created a cataclysmic explosion of hostility that was controlled and pushed into annual marches on DC...later commemorated by Pride month.

LGBTQ individuals have been around in every culture, in every era throughout time.  The first thought (some historical controversy) gay couple is the tomb of the lovers in 2400bce from Egypt, it wasn’t until the 2nd century that the Roman Church decreed it a punishable offence.  Since the 2nd century there have been thousands of laws condemning LGBTQ individuals and in 2003 the Supreme Court of the United States officially declared anti Sodomy laws unconstitutional.  The deep set contempt of LGBTQ individuals is why the AIDS pandemic was allowed to flourish for over a decade with no words uttered by the President until Ryan White a straight teenager got HIV from a blood transfusion.  Hate Crimes Laws didn’t happen until after Matthew Shepard was brutally beaten and left to die of crucifixion on a fence.  

To say the United States is behind the times on LGBTQ specific issues is an understatement with petty anti-transgender bathroom laws popping up across the country, with the legal right to fire someone in 29 states for being gay and 37 states for being transgender.  It is in this context that Human Trafficking of LGBTQ individuals was established, allowed to flourish, and is just now being discussed.  With the fight over inclusion of of LGBTQ clauses in the Trafficking Victim Protection Reauthorization Act and a defeat by four votes...it is still very much an issue of contention.  

Working as a mentor to LGBTQ victims of trafficking and as a survivor myself we still have a long ways to go to make comprehensive, inclusive, and beneficial changes to the system.  When religious non governmental agencies still promote cure the gay “therapies”, when shelters misgender transgender individuals, when transgender victims don’t get the needed medical care they require, and victims are told by law enforcement “no one cares about fag beatings” and “queers choose this” we fail a populace that we allow to be victims.  

“You kill by consent, every time you let something… pervert the balance when you have the power to stop it.” Thomm Quackenbush, Danse Macabre (Night's Dream, #2)

When I started speaking out on the victims not discussed I was met with some curious justifications as to why we didn’t discuss them.  When I brought up that boys are sexually abused at the same rate as girls in the US and suddenly sexual assault of men drops to only 2% after the magick age of 18, I was told that there is a high mortality rate of male victims or that male victims aren’t assaulted at the same rates.  Which is true the mortality rate between suicide, overdose, and outright murder is high for non discussed trafficking victims.  When discussing the complexity of ‘survival sex’ and the LGBTQ community, I was met with they choose it.  This pervasive conversation of female sex trafficking victims and male labour trafficking victims is so ingrained in the misconceptions of trafficking.  I don’t think most even realize how often victims are gendered into ‘legitimate’ perceptions.  The cognitive dissonance of feminists that continue to promote only women hold fears of sexual assault and are the only legitimate victims perpetuate the problem.

“The idea that some lives matter less is the root of all that is wrong with the world.” Paul, Farmer  

The vast majority of victims I deal with have been kicked out by their families, do what they must to survive (even as young as 6), were victims of abuse both sexual and physical, suffer from homophobia or transphobia, some are drop outs, some are on drugs.  But, the pervasive use of choice is curious.  Survival sex is not a choice...unless we accept that choosing to survive is the only choice.  Within the complex issues of Human Trafficking and the LGBTQ community we have certain built in stigmas knocking individuals down from that ‘legitimate’ status; we face stigma from homelessness, drug addictions, HIV status, being LGBTQ, working survival sex, and a system that so stigmatizes we can simply be thrown away.  It is a well reported statement within Anti-Trafficking movements that within 48 hours of being homeless individuals are picked up by a trafficker.  But, within the LGBTQ community and building itself in the shadows of mafia owned establishments hiding from officers and felony convictions for being who we are...we have exploitation built into that community; often not discussed.

Raising awareness of Human Trafficking within the LGBTQ community is a complex and messy subject, because many of the organizations that help other victims only pacify the system that says they need to be inclusive to LGBTQ victims.  Not understanding sexual assault by priests, being thrown out for religious reasons by family, and condemned for centuries as worthy of death can have a pretty built in contempt of religion for the LGBTQ community.  Pro-sex groups fight for ending stigma while missing that a child as young as 9 can’t legally work in any profession and therefore has no choice but to work sex even if they can’t legally consent to sex.  The sexual liberation movement misses the informed consent not allowed in a choice between life and death.  And, the battle over legitimacy is just a frustration.  There is a clear pattern with homeless LGBTQ victims of trafficking going from survival sex, to peer introduced exploitive sex, to forced or coerced or frauded into trafficking.  

My introduction to the anti trafficking movement has been trying to work out the complex issues of raising awareness, getting victims inclusive, beneficial, and needed services, as well as working to provide adequate discussions on the very complex issues of Human Trafficking within the LGBTQ community.  As a transgender survivor of exploitive sex, homelessness, and trafficking...there is a frustration about the conversation (or lack of conversation) on these complex issues.  I have to educate the victims I work with on the complexities of trafficking, work on finding the best services available for them, and work on creating better models for programs and shelters.  

So let us remember a few simple things when dealing with LGBTQ victims/survivors...you can’t help if you condemn, the LGBTQ community is complex and and diverse, there is still a rebellious liberation in the community. How do we help these victims?  Simple, speak up, work within the community they trust, and open up meaningful conversations to start seeing not only the victim’s/survivor’s needs but also our own limitations in being able to help them best.  




Monday, May 16, 2016

A pervasive dialog keeps being pushed that only women are victims of sexual assault. Oftentimes so simple as gendered victims as she...and perpetrators as him. So, I'm going to break my preference and change a few names. These are my clients I work with. 

Erik was legally adopted by a politician at 6 years old. He was kept in a cage under his owner's bed. He was a personal latrine for the man...and a political toy to pull favors at parties. Erik was only referred to as 'boy' and at 19 in an auction house for boys being sold as sex toys...had no idea what his name was. I still doubt the name currently used is the name given him at birth. Erik was sold to the auction house when he became positive for HIV and was no longer acceptable as a political toy. Erik suffers complex trauma, self mutism, extreme OCD, and PTSD.

The triplets 1,2, and 3 perspective of order born.  Sold by their grandfather at 9...on the assumption they were being taken to America to better their lives. When Kaitlyn got them she didn't like 1 being protective of 2 and 3...so she beat 2 ruthlessly. When they tried to run she killed 1 to force 2 and 3 to comply.  2 became a prized pet and won a lot of underground showings for his training.  He wasn't allowed to eat food without performing a sex act first.  Half of his clients were women.  3 was used as a fetish object for buyers that wanted brother sex...and it was beaten into them it wasn't incest unless it was for personal pleasure. 2 was beaten for lashing out at his controller...he had 11 broken ribs, a collapsed lung, a ruptured spleen, 3 breaks on his legs, and died in a hospital from his wounds. 3 suffers trust issues, still works as a stripper/bartender, has complex trauma and survivors guilt.

Roger was owned by a bar owner and never left the bar. He was a dancer at the bar...a go-go boy. Part of his job was keeping the customers content with happy endings.  He was used as bait in an attempt to over throw a rival bar owner.  He was classified a rat and his knee was ruptured with a tendon torn.  He was caged, chained and beaten...and thinks sex is something that should be done to keep people happy.

Coco is 7...she was sold by her father (the trafficker that helped make her). Coco is transgender.  She was shipped between 3 countries and the videos made I've no knowledge of where they are to file reports.  Her biological grandmother got her...but, she's a handful biting in defence. 

I could go on...but, I think the point is hit.  These individuals exploited their entire lives were allowed to fall through the cracks because sexual assault is only a women's issue.  I'm told when I bring up male victims they choose it, there's high mortality, or they don't suffer like women do. Sexual assault of children is 50/50. Sexual assault of gay men is 1 in 4, sexual assault of lesbians is 1 in 4, sexual assault od women is 1 in 4, sexual assault of transgender is 1 in 2, and sexual assault of straight men is 1 in 6. Sexual assault isn't just a women's issue...it is a society issue. But, the only difference is the current discussion only talks about sexual assault of women.